I continue to share my childhood revelations. They occur during individual work with children or in the course “Art therapy for children who are worried about their parents.” - What was good? What was wrong? - I start every lesson with these two questions. In the first lessons, children have difficulty finding the good in their lives. They remember the bad things right away. There is a category of children who remain silent. This happens because there is an internal prohibition of self-expression. Some children see good things that have not yet come: “I have good things that will happen: they will buy them, they will drive them, we will go, we will play.” Then we learn to see the good in the present. Let's not forget about the bad. We learn to compare sensations and draw conclusions. One day she suggested drawing “good” and “bad”. And this is what happened. - My good thing is a hedgehog! - Is it good with thorns? - It has soft thorns. - Does anyone know about this? - No. The hedgehog doesn't tell anyone so that he won't be offended. - A dark thundercloud strikes everyone with lightning! This is my bad! - I saw a caterpillar in a thundercloud. Here is its nose and eye. - It really is a caterpillar! So it's not a very bad cloud. Now I’ll draw an evil cloud! - Yes, really evil! This cloud is menacing. She scares! - She scares everyone with her lightning. She is formidable and evil. “Write a story about a hedgehog with soft spines, about a not very bad cloud and about an evil cloud,” I suggested. The story is fabulous, but believable. There lived a hedgehog with soft spines. He loved berries, especially raspberries. I went into the forest to eat raspberries. And a cloud from the sky shouts to him: “Don’t eat my raspberries! Don’t come near my raspberries. You will damage them with your thorns!” The hedgehog replied: “I have soft thorns. I won’t do anything bad to your berries. I will eat the raspberries carefully.” The cloud believed it and changed its mind about shooting lightning at the hedgehog. She turned into a caterpillar and went down to the hedgehog on a raspberry bush. They began to eat raspberries together. The caterpillar was convinced that the hedgehog’s spines were soft. She stroked them. The good made friends with the bad. But then evil appeared! It was against it! She decided to hit the hedgehog and the caterpillar with lightning. The hedgehog and the caterpillar hid under a leaf and invited the evil one to take a walk, play and eat berries. The evil cloud agreed. She smiled at them. That's it! And when they played, a blush appeared on her cheeks. The story ended. I asked: “Are you in this story?” Who? “A hedgehog with soft spines,” answered the child. Conclusion: Dear parents! Your child will not open up to you like in this story. And not because he doesn't trust you. But because there is no control that his parents are accustomed to. The habit of self-control is good, but it interferes with self-expression. In our classes, self-expression is safe. And this is very useful for the child! By playing out a situation hidden from your eyes, he helps himself to cope with what is painful and difficult for him. Thank you for your responses and “thank you” under the article and I invite you to deal with the issues that worry you. © All rights reserved. Reprint of an article or fragment only with the author indicated and a link to this site. My book “From Conception to Growing Up” for parents at a discount! https://ridero.ru/books/ot_zachatiya_do_vzrosleniya/