As soon as I started writing this article, questions began to arise in my head one after another. Who will my reader be? Why does she need a harmonious relationship? What worries her, worries her and doesn’t suit her? She may be in her mid-twenties, or well into her mid-thirties. She may be married or divorced, or she may be in a long search for “her” man. I don't know who She is. But I can say for sure: what unites me and Her is that we loved, love and want to love in the future. We have a lot of women’s hopes, innermost desires and plans, and there were also enough disappointments... Why should she read about “harmonious relationships”? Certainly not in order to compare “harmonious” relationships with her own! Not to find which of the points she has wrong or to self-critically compile a list for participation in the “ideal woman” race! Frankly speaking, I don’t believe in ideal men and women at all, nor in ideal relationships. After all, my reader knows: Vedic gurus and fashionable women's trainers, of course, say wonderful things - about femininity, the destiny of being a Muse and “real” men. But this does not save us from crises, quarrels, disappointments and the reality that every woman faces sooner or later (even in the most prosperous relationships). What would I like to tell Her first? That there are no ideal relationships. It is a myth. It was invented by old maids so that other women would also not have a personal life. And we, with this myth, rush around like crazy around beauty salons, astrologers and places where, in our opinion, “real” men are found. There are quite normal men and normal relationships in which, in addition to love and joy, there are quarrels, conflicts and crises. But there is also enough kindness, happiness and warmth there (or at least there was once enough). At this point you can breathe a sigh of relief and stop running a marathon in pursuit of your own ideality and “harmonious” relationships. “What is right then?” - you ask. We create our “right” ourselves, together with our partner. And it’s different for everyone. Harmonious relationships are those in which yours and mine “correctly” coincide. In one family the woman works and the man sits with the child, in another it is the other way around. Some have sex three times a week, while others have sex once a month. Some spend their holidays together, others separately. And each of these families has its own “right” thing. And it is the most correct thing in the world, if it suits them. And at this point my reader will be greeted by a surprise... In order to create what suits us, I must first understand what suits me as your partner. And here I will definitely remember the “take-give” balance. Because there is nowhere without him. Without it, an unhealthy imbalance arises in relationships, which sooner or later will destroy our love and mutual respect. I have to understand what I can give you as a woman, and what I want to get from you as a man. Why do we need relationships? Are we equal partners in them? Is our importance and human worth to each other the same? After all, no matter what, we choose our partner every day, and he continues to choose us every day. And if you know why you choose each other, crises are not scary for you. And the “less than ideal” partner is not scary either. And here I will move on to an important point. “My husband beats me” is not just a “not ideal” partner that can be experienced. If we are talking about harmony, then any normal relationship should be healthy. And for this I need to learn how to build a healthy relationship with myself. Learn to choose Myself when they try to humiliate or harm me. Learn to understand yourself and your needs. Learn to notice whether I am growing or fading in a relationship. Because for many women, healthy relationships are inaccessible (I would even say unbearable) until they build this relationship with themselves. The path to a healthy relationship based on mutual respect and love does not begin with searching».