You need to start with changes within yourself. First, a thought and feeling appear, which later manifest themselves in behavior and emotions. Therefore, we must begin changes with thoughts and feelings. What you have in your thoughts now is suspicion, what you feel now is jealousy, fear: all this is your way to achieve your goal. If you are reading these lines, then you already doubt that the chosen method is right for you and will lead to the results you want. In fact, what are your goals? Most likely, you want the relationship to become stronger, you want to feel needed, loved. Then what new feelings and thoughts will help you achieve this? 1. You need to let go of the fear that you will be abandoned and the feeling of possessiveness. Your loved ones do not belong to you. In this world, even our own life is given to us for temporary use. You have your own life, your spouse also has their own life. You have a wonderful opportunity to live together, be grateful for it. Cherish this time and enjoy the time you spend with your loved one. To strengthen relationships, work on yourself, do not waste your precious time on hatred and aggression towards real or imaginary rivals. Respect the individuality of the person you love. Do not forget that it is impossible to lose what does not belong to you. 2. A person’s jealousy may indicate his lack of self-confidence. In this case, the person believes that he does not reach a certain level, that he is not good enough. And this may be the reason that your spouse may begin to look for what you are missing on the side. Not because your spouse sees these shortcomings in you, but because you see them. What to do? Change your attitude towards yourself. You will begin to love and respect yourself, the same manifestation of feelings will be towards you from your spouse. 3. TRUST Derived from FAITH. There is no trust where there is no faith. Learn to first believe in yourself: in your strength and beauty, in the fact that there is something to love you for. Believe in your partner's love for you. Where there is trust and faith, there is no place for doubt, and therefore jealousy. 4. Showing love Express your love by any means other than jealousy. Jealousy is always aggression. And even if you don’t make a row and swear because of this, but are jealous in silence, this is also aggression, on a psychological level. What is the usual response to aggression? Exactly the same. Because a person is forced to protect himself. So instead of jealousy, show love. After all, is this what you really want? Sincerely, your psychotherapist, coach, interpersonal relationship specialist, Natalya Akhmedova