This illusion is not baseless. It has a basis in reality, in distant childhood. As a child, we had the absolute right to wait and hope that a parent would come, help, support, reassure and give what we wanted. After all, the parent’s function is to help the child, protect him and meet his needs. And even if the child’s needs are in childhood were not closed completely enough, then some part of them was still closed from the outside, albeit not perfectly. That is, the expectation that someone will come into my life and do something for me is a normal expectation, but it adequate only in childhood. If this expectation persists in adulthood, then it is illusory. Even if someone agrees to this role, this person will only be able to cover a few percent of this “black hole.” Another person can give love, but not unconditional love. He will need something in return...Another person can give care, but only that which he is capable of due to his upbringing and his capabilities...Another person can give a feeling of fullness in your life, but for a while, because that he will not be able to be with you from morning to evening... As adults, becoming happier is our responsibility. Learning to meet our needs is our responsibility. Taking care of our well-being and mental comfort is our own task. And even choosing the right environment , so that it corresponds to our self-care, so that it supports us along this path - this is our task. That person who will come and answer all the questions simply does not exist. No one will be a parent for us. It is important to understand that if now you do not have a partner, and you are bored, you are suffering, you do not know what to do with yourself, then it is worth understanding what needs within you are not fulfilled. Think about how you can try to close them yourself . Think about how to learn to create a comfortable life for yourself and how to take care of yourself. Instead of waiting for someone else to come and do it for you. Then you will be able to “attract” into your life a non-conditional “parent”, relationships with whom will not be equal, namely, a partner with whom you can be in a constructive relationship.