Do you know the feeling of loneliness? Very often loneliness is seen in the context of “I have no friends or partner.” But loneliness is much deeper and varies depending on the phenomenon: isolation, fear of rejection, solitude. This is all loneliness and it is different. Today I want to talk about loneliness in couples. I described above that the phenomenon of loneliness can be different. There may be a need for solitude and to be alone, loneliness is like isolation, when one is punished by silence and leaving. Or Fear of Rejection, where I am afraid to open up and be vulnerable and not understood. Feel that pain of loneliness again. I wanted to share my experiences, but I heard “that you are always making things up and making things up.” Merging into one is an example of an unhealthy relationship, where there is no I and you, and we are present. And there it is difficult to notice your individual feelings and needs. But on the other hand, this is a very pleasant state that the baby had with its mother and I really want to go back there. Where it is calm and safe. But this is impossible. Although many people dream of meeting the one with whom they will be just as calm and safe. But the reality is that no other person can satisfy all our needs at once. This means that even in the most ideal marriage we will always be at least a little unsatisfied. Accordingly, loneliness in relationships can be different. Somewhere this is the need for solitude, somewhere it is the need to share common issues, the opportunity to talk and be heard. And if these needs cannot be satisfied in a couple, then a crisis is possible in the relationship, or one of the partners finds how to satisfy this need. Thus, being lonely in a relationship does not mean the end of it. Rather, it is an inevitable component that allows, with the proper approach, namely, high-quality living through the crisis - therapy, to discuss what everyone is not happy with, to agree on something new, which allows them to deepen or expand relationships. Sincerely, psychologist Natalya Gorelovawww.ngorelova.ru+ 7 915 228 51 05 (Whats up, telegram)