In childhood, most people have traumatic events that affect the scenario and later life. And this does not necessarily mean beatings, violence and other horrors. Trauma can be the lack of time parents have for their child due to the large amount of work, and frequent criticism, and “necessary” severity in the form of punishment, reproaches, scolding, accusations. It can be difficult to cope with childhood traumas. A child always initially expects unconditional love and believes that he is good, just like his loved ones. But more often than not, upbringing and relationships with loved ones show him the opposite. A “set of laws and rules” is being created, compliance with which will provide him with love and acceptance, the opportunity to “be good.” And the violation develops a persistent feeling of one’s badness, worthlessness, uselessness, unworthiness. For example, adults showed excessive severity or even rudeness towards the child (everything is your fault, you are not capable of anything, you are always ruining everything). In a similar way, they they offended the child, in the Children's section it was cemented that since they treat me like this, then I am bad, and the world is against me. A feeling of one’s own helplessness, insolvency, a victim of circumstances is formed. In fact, how can a small person resist a big and strong adult? In the future, even the slightest reminder of those situations seems to throw you back to childhood. Forcing you to experience those childhood emotions, to repeat that childhood behavior, thanks to which you were then able to survive and adapt to your adults. Your helplessness, pricelessness, inability, to feel like a victim, despite your age and situation. You need to remind yourself that now you are an adult yourself, and you can behave differently, you have more opportunities, more options, abilities, strength. In situations that raise these emotions, you need to connect your Adult part, which knows how to analyze and compare current reality with past events. Do people around you really want to hurt you now? Are you really forced to be a victim now, can’t stand up for yourself, can’t do anything differently, are you forced to obey? Do you really look at the situation through the eyes of an adult, or is it still assessed by your inner Child? And give your inner Child support, care, and tell you how he can behave now, in reality. The process is not fast, but in the end it helps you perceive yourself and the world around you differently. And act differently.