During meetings with a psychologist, clients may display various emotions: anger, resentment, sadness, guilt (see list of basic emotions: https://www.b17.ru/go_2oo). These emotions can be of varying intensity, for example, irritation - anger - anger is rage. Where do they come from? Could a psychologist whom a client sees for the first time really evoke such strong emotions? Of course not. These emotions arose in the client a long time ago, probably back in childhood, and the psychologist somehow reminded him of the person who at one time evoked similar emotions. In psychoanalysis this phenomenon is called transference. (you can read more about transference here: https://www.b17.ru/go_2oq) Emotions that arose earlier, which the client has accumulated throughout his life, pour out on the psychologist. An example from a real dialogue. Psychologist: - I believe that parents should give education for children so that the child can earn a living with his qualifications. Client: - Do you think I’m a complete fool and uneducated? And by the way, I have an education. Parents paid. Why do they think I’m stupid and uneducated (angry)? The psychologist could not know that the client had an education if the latter did not write about it. The psychologist only provoked the emotions that arose in the client; she was not their cause. These emotions arose much earlier, and the psychologist added the last drop to the client’s overflowing bucket. What to do in such a situation? If the client has emotions in a conversation with the psychologist, you need to talk about it. Discuss when and in what situations similar emotions arose in the past. What thoughts arise in the head (automatic thoughts). It is the automatic thoughts (B) that arise in response to the situation (A) that lead to the emergence of emotions (C). This is the well-known ABC formula from the founder of rational emotive behavior therapy, Albert Ellis. If we consider In more detail, the emotion of anger - anger, it usually arises in relation to close people. Anger is basically aimed at punishing the offender so that he would be discouraged from doing so. Anger seeks to force another person to act as I think is right, that is, in essence, it is the desire to subordinate the other person to my rules of life. A more in-depth analysis using the REBT method allows you to identify these rules of life, consider how adequate they are to the situation, that is, functional for the client. Identify harmful rules that prevent the client from living and correct them. Let’s not “run away” from transference, work better and more effectively with it!