We, as living organisms, are born, live and develop in contact with the outside world. And this contact has two directions: when we need to take something from this environment (food, clothes, money, love, support, some information) or give something away. As a result, when we receive what we need, that is, we satisfy our needs, we receive pleasure, joy and satisfaction. But in real life conditions, we are surrounded by a large number of other people whose needs and desires may coincide with ours. And then special activity is required from us in order to get what we want, ahead of our opponent. Since it is vital for us to eat and breathe, this is our physical need, then in critical situations of shortage we are forced to enter into competition for these resources. And the choice here is simple: either my life or the life of another. In conditions of a threat to life, we enter into competition for our own safety and comfort. Competition with other people can also be determined by the needs for communication, affection, attention, love. When there is a certain source (person) to satisfy these needs and people (or one person) who also claim his attention, communication and love. Competition is also important when satisfying the need to belong (to a family, clan, organization, group). And here it is important to be similar, similar, worthy, to appropriate the idea, worldview, and certain values ​​of a given group or community. In the professional sphere, most often we enter into competition, satisfying our need for respect, recognition, evaluation, success. And here we compete and compete with our colleagues. If this need is still not satisfied, instead of cooperation comes devaluation of one’s colleagues and their work. When working with the topic of competition, it is important to move towards awareness: how do we enter into competition, how do we do it, how do we accept the results and consequences of our actions? They require special attention behavioral strategies we use in competition. The main problem may be distortion, “substitution” of a true need. And then, for example, wanting love and intimacy, we include actions characteristic of satisfying the need for recognition, we begin to demonstrate our developed intelligence, erudition, and actively enter into an argument, which contributes to confrontation and distance in relationships. This is how a person with experience of receiving love and acceptance only for certain merits and successes can behave. Thus, women in relationships often compete with their men for male functions in the family. Or parents, needing confirmation that they are wiser, more important and more experienced, begin to compete with their adult children through unsolicited care, help and advice. It is important to restore contact with reality , through awareness of your true needs and desires. And also explore your defense mechanisms, practice possible effective forms of cooperation and partnership in relationships.