In the last post I told you why we don’t see them. In short, people have stereotypical thinking, a filter only for the result that already exists. You cannot change the presets yourself. What are the options? There are two of them - an expert. The second is a psychologist. What is the difference and why the second is better than the first I will explain further.1. Expert opinion or consulting. Sometimes, there is no need to reinvent the wheel. It’s easier to just buy this bike. This option involves contacting an expert in a certain topic. For example, in life. By turning to him, you acknowledge his authority, that he lives better than you and you want to live just like him. The expert assesses your life, or any area of ​​it, regarding his competence. After that, he gives specific recommendations - do it this way and it will be so. This is consulting. In many areas this is a good and proven result. This also works in psychology. But... If we want to live NOT like everyone else, then we need to do the same thing, not like everyone else.2. Search for new opportunities. Something that hasn't happened yet. Creativity. This is where psychology helps us, it allows us to be creative in our lives. Go beyond templates. I really like to give an example with photography. For example, it depicts a person in some kind of experience - smiling, laughing, sad or angry. This photo. It remains unchanged. For you. A real person, or a situation that you see in the form of a photograph, does not freeze. Neither people nor situations are flat. And you have already fantasized for yourself. They dramatized the picture. That's it, there is no way out. Especially if you find yourself in a situation that no one has encountered before. There is no expert to help you. Or maybe you are the very expert that everyone goes to. You were leaving home and saw your colleagues laughing behind your back. “These bastards are laughing. I’ll show them later...” Thoughts flash through my mind. But in fact, it’s just someone telling a funny joke, completely unrelated to you. You see a “photo” of an angry screaming boss. But in fact, something happened at his home, you just fell under the hot hand and 99% of the time this person is a bunny and a cat. But you already have a photograph of reality - a map. The map is not the territory. If you wander around St. Petersburg with a map of Moscow time in 1812, you are unlikely to come anywhere, or rather not where you wanted. We clarify and adequateize the maps. We convert the photograph into 3D and begin to rotate it from different sides until we find the desired, winning side. By the way, the methods are very simple. I talked about them and showed them more than once. But our security system is designed in such a way that such changes practically do not happen on their own. This is why a psychologist is needed. As a certain point of reference or support. Let us recall the famous, popular words of the outstanding mathematician of Ancient Greece, Archimedes of Syracuse: “Give me a point of support, and I will move (turn over) the Earth!»