Who is the inner critic? Always in control and knowing the most? Constantly limiting and trying to protect? What is your priority: fear or responsibility? Where is this line and is it clear? I have associations with the woodpecker bird. It seems to bring benefits, it eats insects (who can live without cockroaches these days?). But on the other hand: this knocking is so tiring, and it is not known who will decide to settle in that hollow. Everything is good in moderation. And if conscience and common sense flow into self-condemnation, nit-picking and accusations, then this is clearly too much. Just like the other extreme: complete irresponsibility and “moyahataskray” are fraught with chronic infantilism, shifting the needle to others and whining in online victim mode. How to find a middle ground so that the boat does not tilt? Who has the oars and how do you know where to row? I love Burn's trinity: parent, child and adult. So that same internal critic is one of the extremes of a strictly internal parent. Naturally, the behavior model is copied from real mothers from childhood. And if there was a tough upbringing, then the person usually doesn’t let himself down. Or, due to severe injury, he may roll into a corner, hide there and throw tantrums. And this is the extreme of a capricious inner child. And when there is such discord and confusion inside, then only the common sense of the inner adult will first command “Hold your oars!”, and then, having established contact between parent and child, take control into its own hands. So what if suddenly If you hear a monotonous knocking in your temples, increasing accusations, comparison with others, ridicule, depressing doubts, and maybe even obvious insults, then urgently transfer the fun into the confident hands of an adult. He will take it tighter and will do what is needed))) Jokes are jokes, but harmony is our everything! Behind the whims of a child, our sincere desires are always hidden, which were not heard at the time, and therefore a method of manipulation, even internal, has become habitual. And behind the criticism of a strict adult there is always love, care and guardianship. It’s just that the usual script of the previous generation cut out a clumsy template, and sometimes it’s easier to beat yourself up than to praise. Harmony, love, joy and inner balance to everyone! And if necessary, I’ll borrow a couple of oars that will help balance the weight categories of the trio in the boat)))