From the author: "...Please tell me. The situation is heating up. The parents themselves are advanced, they themselves understand and we appreciate them for what they do for us. On the side and in person we are proud and we praise us for certain character traits and love for us. But the way they react to certain moments, repeating the same thing, “kills us”..." - quote from a letter to an adult daughter. How to behave with parents? Judging by your letter, you live in a patriarchal family with its own strict laws and rules. Until recently, they were happy with everything and were even proud of their parents and were glad that, compared to others, everything was fine with you. What has changed? You have grown up. And your needs have grown: freedom, decision-making, independent planning of your affairs, choice of what to do, etc. What distinguishes an adult from a child above all? Right. Responsibility for your life, for safety, for the future, finally, etc. Can you call yourself a responsible person and therefore an adult? If “Yes,” then you have a chance to convey to your parents the amazing point that you have grown up and now “don’t need diapers changed” - this is a metaphor. Parents need to make sure that you can be trusted. How ? By deeds (good work, studies, responsiveness to parents’ requests). And if you only demand and make trouble when they don’t give it to you, then this is not adulthood, but whims. Most likely, your parents’ position regarding freedoms for a girl is quite conservative (I don’t know their philosophy, but I can guess from the text). Therefore, they will not easily let you into the club (for them this is most likely an immoral place) “...On the side and in person, we are proud and praised for certain character traits and love for us. But the way they react to us in certain moments, repeating the same thing, worries us...” - quote from your letter. I recommend being proud out loud. Praise in person. And thank you more often. “Thank you, dear parents, for providing us with a comfortable life and giving us the opportunity to learn and develop.” I think you should ask your advanced parents directly to explain why they do not allow you to grow up, what they are afraid of and how they see your future and much more that worries you. How to behave with your parents? Like adults, if you are an adult.