🔥Everyone knows that I have a promotion for my subscribers on Instagram* - 1 question to a psychologist 🌟free🌟. As part of this campaign, various questions are often asked, but one of the most pressing ones is How to stop yelling at a child? Or what can I do with my child to make him behave better? I’ll say right away that there is no 100% answer to this question, now I’ll explain why. For example, I’ll take a car that has broken down. When you contact a car service center, no one will tell you what the problem is without inspecting the car. You can, of course, suggest a lot of hypotheses, but they still won’t be able to determine it accurately, because Any mechanism in a car can break down. It’s the same with a child, it’s difficult to understand from one question why you’re yelling at him, but you can make assumptions. What assumptions do you have? (I’ll clarify that this is only part) 1 assumption - a child is a reflection of parents or significantly close people. I think you have noticed that your children pronounce speech similar to yours or speech similar to one of your relatives, acquaintances, etc., that is a person who made a great impression on the child. 2 assumption - the child does not listen to you, because... This is the only way he can get your attention, albeit in the form of a scream. You try to interact with him, ask him to do something, but the result is zero. As a result, you go from powerlessness to screaming, because... you hope, for example, that by yelling at a child you can achieve a result. 3 assumption - the child is tired, sick, received a bad grade, someone offended him. In this case, the feelings of children are often not taken into account, because the calculation is based on the fact that he is still small, that he understands there. You ask him several times to do something, for example, put away the toys, but he refuses, eventually patience comes to an end and the screaming begins. How to deal with this? Start working with yourself, because... the child takes you as an example. Think about what exactly irritates you in the child’s behavior, because... Most often we notice those traits in other people that are characteristic of ourselves. Learn to play and collect toys with your children. Many will now say that we do this every day, but the question is precisely the quality and duration of the game. You can play and talk in “fuck off”, or “I’m preparing dinner, there’s no time now,” or “when I’m done, I’ll play with you,” but in fact this moment never comes. Share with your child your feelings towards situations, to himself. Children grow up and do not understand how to correctly express their emotions and feelings. Help your child in any difficult situation. It seems to us that putting away toys is as easy as shelling pears, but for a child this is not so. There are a lot of toys, but he is alone, where to put everything away, his eyes run wild, it’s not clear what to grab onto, and you yourself know what the result will be. Say friendly phrases more often and hug the child, because It is important for him that you are nearby, that you love him, that you will understand him in any situation. In this case, the phrase “My child already knows that I love him without these words” will not work. I buy him everything, work so that he/she can go to clubs,” etc. What are your thoughts on this?* Instagram is owned by Meta, which is recognized as an extremist organization in Russia.