Ever since the times of the ancient Egyptian kingdom, we have received the ever-present message that children do not respect their parents at all, and their behavior causes serious concern among the older generation. Adults often do not understand their children; parents are not an authority for children. It would seem that the problem is as old as the world. Old. But it’s incredibly relevant, and therefore we shouldn’t discount the fact that children’s behavior is largely determined by their relationships with their elders. Not long ago I talked about this topic with a psychotherapist at a regional psychoneurological dispensary; she talked about children who turn to them to the “helpline.” She said that most of their problems are related to teenage infantilism, that is, a reluctance to independently influence the course of any events. She noted that this is influenced by the tendency to spend time not with peers in the yard, where communication skills are developed and self-image is formed, but in the virtual world, from which children, instead of resting and relaxing in a natural environment, receive, on the contrary, a lot of psychological stress. In this state, they really cannot cope with school workloads, begin to skip classes, become irritable, complain about overwork, and refer to poor health. This is how the “Munchausen complex” is developed. It represents ordinary laziness, cleverly framed in fables, based on fear. According to the doctor, who is “on the front line” in problems with children, teenagers really lack trusting relationships with their parents. Her story was a little reminiscent of the style of Soviet newspapers; she talked about the importance of moral education, the importance of ideals and authorities that children would like to strive for. But I believed that precisely at that time, when the younger generation had some unshakable foundations and ideas, children really had fewer problems. Where parents “bad”, the school at least somehow picked up, the children at least somehow steered, growing up in yard companies, where they had to defend themselves and feel a friend’s shoulder to lean on. Now the main role in raising a child remains precisely in a family where upbringing begins from birth, and therefore the role of frank, trusting relationships between the child and parents has increased, and these can only be achieved through frequent direct communication with one’s own children, in which non-judgmental categories, harmony and confidence in each other should prevail. And with sadness I remembered how in the topic “What qualities do you cultivate in your children?”, some colleagues, professional psychologists, answered “If I raise a child, then I will be a teacher, not a mother.” I decided to open the topic, despite its age. what do you think? https://www.b17.ru/forum/topic.php?id=304004