Good day! Olga Romulus is with you. From the very beginning I want to say a huge thank you for writing me letters and comments, and I understand what you are thinking about, what problems you are facing and what issues you are solving, what successes are happening and what so far It doesn’t work out. So today’s article is the result of your questions, the general meaning of which is: “What should I do if I put on a skirt, drink warm milk at night, imagine myself as a queen with a crown on my head, but nothing helps. I don’t feel like a Woman.” Yes, the topic “how to become a real Woman” has its pitfalls. In order to answer these questions, illuminate the pitfalls, I will use a figurative association. Just imagine, one fine day you look back at the house in which you live , and realized that I didn’t want to live like this any longer, I had to hand over everything - turn all this ugliness into a beautiful, comfortable feminine kingdom. (I realized that I often make comparisons with home. It’s a very suitable and such a “feminine” image))) .How do we usually do repairs? We start by looking at magazines or pictures on the Internet and looking for what we like. Then we go buy materials, hire a specialist (or do it ourselves. I already wrote about this in a previous article), who makes our dreams come true. Sometimes everything happens so smoothly. But I’ve rarely seen this in my life. And here’s what can most likely happen: - you didn’t understand from the picture what material the interior parts were made of, or you wasted money and time on choosing the ideal materials and bought, seem to be similar, but the effect turned out to be completely different. - you didn’t fully implement the whole idea, but decided to change some details, but they don’t fit into the interior that you have now. - you didn’t study, didn’t take into account the architectural features of your premises, so the renovation has stalled. - you hired a master who turned a blind eye to your architectural features, made a complete copy of the repair (as in the picture), only the wall is now frozen for some reason. - you did everything correctly - you took into account the features of the room, We bought excellent materials, hired a good, attentive craftsman, and made repairs. It’s just that living in this room is inconvenient for you, because your lifestyle is different, not for this interior. And this is still a fairly simple option. Imagine a complex apartment with a bunch of load-bearing walls (which cannot just be removed), littered with old trash and built-in furniture, and we want to turn it into a spacious free studio without walls and partitions... Well, shall we decipher it? It seems to me that everything is clear. Very often, in remaking our own lives, we chase after other people’s models, waste time and money, hire unsuitable specialists, and - most importantly - we don’t start by studying ourselves, our own characteristics, but copy other people’s pictures. That’s why We put on skirts, take baths with expensive oils, put on heels, repeat affirmations “I am a queen”... and feel out of place - stupid and stupid. And we are surprised: “Well, she did it! Am I really that incompetent? Or am I not destined at all?” What is the best way to proceed? In short: 1. It’s very good to think, why are you starting all these changes, what result do you want to achieve? What kind of life do you want to lead? How do you want to live?2. Take a close look at yourself, study your attitudes and ideas - understand what you need to work with - what will help, what can become an obstacle. Be prepared for the fact that you will have to part with some part of your life, change your habits and even your lifestyle.3. Prepare well (resources - time, effort, money, assistants).4. Work purposefully and progressively (not piecemeal). Then, in my opinion, changes in your female lifestyle will lead to the desired result - you will feel comfortable and free and enjoy the work you have done. And be ready to change further!) What do you think about this? Write in the comments, it’s important for me to know.