From the author: If you do only WOMEN'S things, then a man will have no choice but to do MEN'S things! Yes, this requires patience and time! But the WHOLE family will win! And you will be happy, both he and the children. Very often, both in general questions and in personal questions from women, it is asked: What should I do to make him start moving? So that he can decide? So how can we inspire him? Stop doing his work for him. And what is his work? I don’t remember who I heard this from: Imagine a family living in the taiga: husband, wife and five children. And it will IMMEDIATELY become clear to you which work is yours and which is his! In this article I will not pay attention to why there is such a division and provide evidence that there is masculine and feminine. Just imagine: taiga, wooden house, you, 5 children and husband... Do you hunt a lot? What will happen to the children while you are hunting? What will your husband start doing in a week? Probably TV will come up with beer too... If you do only WOMEN'S things, then a man will have no choice but to do MEN'S things! Yes, this requires patience and time! But the WHOLE family will win! And you will be happy, both he and the children. No patience? Where do you put YOUR mental energy? Maybe it's time to sort this out? Where are you sending her? Remember the fairy tales: The princess is sitting in captivity, guarded either by Koshchei, or by the Serpent Gorynych, or by someone else. The prince defeats everyone and takes the queen with him. Why? Let's take a look: The Queen could not defeat everyone and save herself. The weak Queen, with her weakness, motivated (by the way several of the Queen's sons) and aroused the desire to save her and take care of her. She just sat in prison, took care of her beauty and waited. The princess not only believed, she KNEW that she would be saved. Do you believe in your Princes? She did not give him advice on how or whom to kill. Do you trust your husbands? Or your favorite rewards: “I told you, you should have listened”, “I knew it!”, “You’re as always... ehh” and the like? We have 2 ears to hear, 2 eyes to see and only 1 mouth to speak. My dear Queens, take the time to learn to shut up in time, support in time, and so that all this is without humiliation and sarcasm. Otherwise, you know how to silently say EVERYTHING... Korolevna, where attention goes, there goes life! After the Korolevich saves her, she admires not him (!!!), but his valor and courage! “You’re cool” is “nothing” for a man. Learn to thank joyfully and in such a way that the King understands that you are grateful and for what you are grateful. They need specifics! You're cool because you fixed the faucet. You saved me from heavy bags! Practice for 2-3 days, you will easily succeed. Observe children 2-4 years old in kindergarten, they are not yet burdened with ideas about gender equality and the fact that “I can do EVERYTHING myself.” Look how the little princesses behave. And be inspired by them. They act at the level of instincts, at the level of DNA information. You have a choice. And I’m ready to help you implement it. Lana Zolotareva For the first time this article was published here - http://www.liveexpert.ru/journal/view/1554745-kak-ego