"For many, divorce is a bad experience and they need to be able to pick up the pieces before they move on with their lives." Nowadays you can find a large amount of literature on divorce. Starting from books on popular psychology in the public domain to serious research. I would like to draw your attention to the works of the American psychologist B. Fisher. Two books have been published in Russian: “Love. Reboot" and "Recovery after Divorce." I recommend the first one - “Love. Reboot". It is suitable both for independent work while living and accepting a traumatic situation, and for psychologists working directly with the topic of divorce. Fisher has conducted seminars on recovery after divorce for more than 25 years and identified 19 important building blocks that must be completed. They are: denial, fear, adaptation, loneliness, friendship, guilt, rejection, grief, anger, letting go, self-esteem, transition, openness, love, trust, connections, sexuality, solitude, purpose, freedom. These elements symbolize the peak to be climbed . The ascent process can take from a year to 3 (in some cases it may take 5 years) Not everyone rises. It's so easy to hide in your hole and look at the world from a safe hiding place. Or dive headfirst into the whirlpool of new relationships and passions, suppressing and displacing pain, anger and despair that were not fully lived in past relationships. Even more terrible is self-destruction, so sweetly forbidden and at the same time accessible. During the recovery process, Fischer recommends keeping a diary in a format convenient for you. Entries should be made daily and he advises starting them with the words “I feel.” It is also good to find a support group or one person with whom you can discuss emerging difficulties and getting stuck in the “blocks” of the pyramid. It is not recommended to enter into a new relationship immediately after a separation or divorce without completely letting go of the old one. The chapters are named after the stages that need to be completed (Anger, Loneliness, Letting Go, Trust, Love, etc.). You can read the entire book at once and return to the necessary chapters. Or you can gradually, living through the state that is current for you. Each chapter describes in detail what happens to a person at this stage, what actions need to be taken to get through it and special exercises, including working with the body. Note that you can find yourself simultaneously at two points. For example, both alone and in anger. Also, the stages may be in a different sequence than in the book. Everything is individual. At the end of each chapter there are checklists for self-testing. If you speak English, you can fill out the online scale of adaptation to divorce http://www.rebuilding.org/assessment Some points are far from our mentality (for example, the interaction of children with grandparents, etc.), but this can be omitted and take from the book only what is necessary. Fisher does not lose sight of the condition of children during the divorce of their parents. Each chapter contains recommendations and tips for adapting children to the changed situation within the family system. I think I will write more about this book, because it is truly a valuable source of information on self-help during such a difficult life period as divorce. If you are currently going through a difficult experience of divorce or separation, I invite you to the support group, which starts on February 24, 2022 https://www.b17.ru/training.php?id=78015