The best thing a parent can do for their child is to teach him independence. Those who got rid of excessive child care in time have breathed out and calmly maintain excellent relationships with their children. Why is it bad when a child is not independent? Firstly, the parents themselves will endlessly worry about their child. Everything is logical - sooner or later the little person will have to be released into the adult world, and if he was not taught to take responsibility for himself in time, the parents will constantly worry and continue to take care of their “little one”. Secondly, parents (especially mothers) need to remember that they are not service personnel for their children, not servants or slaves. Yes, there is now a widespread opinion that “children did not choose to be born, it was their parents who brought them into this world,” however, this does not mean that being involved in household responsibilities is child abuse. Everyone in the family has responsibilities. If the life of one of its members turns into an eternal holiday, then it is quite reasonable that someone should “serve” this holiday. So, what can be done to raise a child as an independent adult, and then live out his old age in peace: Parents must be prepared raise an independent child. It all starts with the inner confidence that this is necessary. Many people understand at the subconscious level that a child who is not independent is more comfortable. In this situation, everything can be done for him - in the best way and without mistakes. Therefore, rule number one is to allow your child to make mistakes and learn from his mistakes. Encourage initiative and let him show it. Sometimes parents generally do everything for the child, which is probably why nature conceived a crisis at the age of three called “I myself.” So that parents, thanks to hysterics, slow down at least a little and allow the baby to express himself. Forget about phrases like “let me button it up, you still won’t be able to”, “let me feed you”, etc. Let the baby at least try it first, and if it doesn’t work, you will help him unobtrusively. Agree, when a five-year-old child does not know how to dress, and a ten-year-old almost teenager cannot wash the dishes after himself - this is quite strange. Suppressing initiative just leads to a lack of motivation to do anything in the future. Support your child, always discuss the difficulties that arise, listen to his opinion. From early childhood, a child should have the opportunity to make independent choices! The parent’s task is to provide this choice, reducing it to acceptable options from which the child can choose. Your actions and boundaries must be clear and logical. The child must realize that every action or inaction has its own consequences. If you just keep threatening “if you don’t clean your room, you won’t get dessert,” but don’t do anything, your child will never clean anything. In addition, deprivation of sweets is an illogical consequence in this case. It would be more correct to say that without tidying up, the child will look for his things and toys in the mess, and you will not play with him in such rubbish. Help your child properly organize the fulfillment of his personal responsibilities. He should know exactly where to put toys, how to sort dirty things, where the washed dishes are, etc. Praise your baby! Share your experience: how you developed independence in your children, and how it was developed in you. Sign up for a consultation: WhatsApp , Telegram +7 913 380-83-42Skype: as3808342Learn to manage your emotions!💪