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A frequent question that people who are going through a breakup come to consultations with: “Can everything be returned?” Or even like this: “What needs to be done to get your loved one back?” I answer honestly - I don’t know. And this, of course, is not the answer that is expected from me at this moment. Because it hurts so much inside that it seems that nothing else can help except confidence or at least hope that the one who left will return. This is probably why many in this state prefer to turn to magicians, fortune-tellers, and clairvoyants. Because they give such hope, promise certainty, confidently declaring: “I will predict what will happen next,” or even “I will return my loved one.” Fortunately, rather than unfortunately, I do not have such supernatural power as the above-mentioned specialists, because its use contradicts my beliefs: I believe that it is impossible to influence a person without his knowledge and consent, it is unacceptable and unethical. A relationship is only possible if both people want it. And, if you are not clear, then there is only one way to find out for sure whether your ex-partner wants to renew the relationship - talk to him. At the same time, you need to be prepared for the fact that perhaps he will say “no”, or perhaps he will not want this conversation at all. Then how can I help? The most important and basic thing: turn the focus of attention on yourself. There are a lot of painful experiences there, it’s true, and you want to come into contact with them as little as possible. Because of this, attention tends to focus not on the internal, but on the external: on the one who left, on his life. Where is he, who is he with, what’s in his heart, what’s under his heart, is he bored, will he come? At the same time, forgetting that the most important thing is inside. It's not just pain. In this inner space are hidden many priceless treasures, unrecognized, unidentified and unappropriated. And the only true path to healing begins at the point where I recognize that, despite the loss, I still have Me - unique, valuable, possessing this enormous inner wealth. By accepting my own value, it is much easier to hear a possible “no” - it is no longer can destroy you. Or hear “yes” and try to build the relationship anew - with respect for yourself, for your partner and for your lived experience. Or understand that breaking up was the right step, and you need another relationship, another person. Step by step, take care of yourself, survive the breakup, recover and continue living. This path is not an easy one. This path requires courage. I have great respect and gratitude for my clients, for those who choose this path. And I’m very glad that I once chose it myself.