In working with clients, and from my own experience, I understand that it is often easier to be angry with your parents and blame them for all the troubles in life. Although there are situations when you can’t be angry with your parents, you can only feel sorry for them and love them, and help, of course. But even in such an experience, after some time working with a therapist, you discover anger, resentment, and sadness in yourself. And then such a moment comes when you need to, without devaluing your own feelings and experiences, accept the fact that the parents were responsible, but were not to blame. That parents are also people who don’t know something, don’t know how, don’t want and don’t love, they also came from a family in which they learned something, but something was simply not there. It seems important to me in the process of growth and development to learn to take responsibility for one’s own life and experiences. Yes, there was a moment when you couldn't do it. You were a small child who understood little, whose only desire was to be loved, because his life depended on it. And now, when you have grown up, you see where you feel bad, where it is wrong, where something is missing, and where there is too much , you are responsible for yourself. You can continue to bear the burden of anger and resentment towards your parents. You can continue to beat against the indestructible walls of parental stubbornness and belief in your own rightness. The main thing is that you understand what this gives you?! Or can you discern love and gratitude behind all these feelings, again without devaluing them and without reproaching yourself for them. After all, the most important gift - your life - was given to you by your parents. And the good that is in you is also a gift from your parents. In general, it seems to me that it is very important to learn to accept the ambivalence that arises in us towards our parents. After all, anger does not exclude love, but, on the contrary, somehow indicates its presence. Sadness and sorrow speaks of value. And resentment speaks of expectations and hopes. But we are unlikely to experience all this for people who mean nothing to us.