A lot in our lives is connected with the concept of “self-love.” This is an article about how basic self-love and female self-esteem develop. Self-love is not only about pampering yourself, treating yourself well, supporting, developing your abilities, that is, “love in action.” But also very specific states that manifest themselves in: How I treat myself, How I treat others, men and women, the world... In understanding what I deserve as a woman in a relationship. How to check how much the state of love for itself manifested in you. There are a number of signs by which you can determine that you are in a state of self-love. I will list the most important ones. Firstly, this is the belief that love does not need to be earned. That you will be accepted for who you are. And most importantly, you accept yourself as you are. And this does not mean that you will turn a blind eye to problems with excess weight, health, poor health, or self-care. Because you are like this... and you love yourself like this. Yes, this makes a lot of sense - to love yourself in different ways. But at the same time, an indicator that you not only accept yourself, but also love (love is an active interest in the life and development of the object of love. E. Fromm.) will be that you: With all your might you will try to correct the unsatisfactory situation, but at the same time you will not you will scold yourself for finding yourself in this poor state. The belief that love does not need to be deserved also gives excellent immunity from the desire to be liked and meet other people’s standards. You do not need to “achieve” love and do anything special in order to be loved and considered good. Because by default, in your basic picture of the world, you are worthy of love and good. And most likely, you are now in the environment that this feeling “mirrors” for you. Secondly, you know how to maintain reasonable boundaries in relationships. You do not become emotionally (physically, financially, etc.) dependent on your partner. Because not in life, not in relationships, you don’t feel like a victim. Your basic attitude is – I am a winner! But you don’t win at any cost - sometimes, if it is strategically justified, you retreat or concede. And it doesn’t bother you for long, it doesn’t torment you for years or at all... And thirdly, this is the ability to ask for help, for what is really important to you. And accept. Accept what was asked for, even if it came to you from an unexpected source (a gift, a find, a crazy discount on a sale...) Many women would rather give than receive. Earn it rather than simply accept it with gratitude. At least a compliment... These three components are confirmation of the “love-state” - female self-esteem. Thus, the formula for basic self-love sounds like this: Basic love = “Love action” + “Love state” Based on this basic formula self-love, we can talk about self-love and high female self-esteem. Be loved and happy! Hugs:)