How to save a family. I have noticed that recently the number of family consultations has begun to increase. People are increasingly turning to psychologists for family counseling. Couples arrive in a state close to divorce. I’ll tell you about one such pair today. With their permission, of course. All names have been changed. 3 months ago a couple Irina and Sergey came to me. The relationship was spoiled, more and more often they thought about divorce; as the couple themselves claimed, only their daughter Anya, 7 years old, was holding them back. As it turned out during the counseling process, they had not had a sexual life for half a year, the daughter slept with her mother. To my question to Irina why you sleep with your daughter, she replied that her daughter is afraid to sleep on her own. The spouses spoke different languages, often quarreled, and during the quarrel they always got personal, forgetting how the conflict began. Irina was annoyed by Sergei because he devoted little time to his family and household affairs, and Sergei was dissatisfied that the situation at home was constantly tense and his wife did not devote time to him, and besides, she slept with her daughter, which affected their intimate life. The first thing our work began with was that the couple began to express their true feelings and emotions to each other, without getting personal, with “I” statements, i.e. what do I feel when you…., and not as it was before, you are “bad”, “bad”. Secondly, we drew up a marital contract in which we filled out all the points necessary for Irina and Sergei, such as: - respect; - care; - love and tenderness; - intimacy and communication; - responsibilities; - finances; - safety - sexual relations. Third, it is mandatory to do homework. The couple went on a date, showed concern for each other every day, all complaints that arose were resolved immediately, and did not accumulate. Fourth, my daughter began to sleep on her own. The fear that Anya was afraid to sleep alone was cherished by Irina herself. It was convenient for her to go to her daughter, thereby punishing Sergei. Fifth, the couple learned to speak the same language, i.e. listen and hear each other. I am very glad that this wonderful family managed to find the strength to turn to a specialist and start working. And I am sure that in every family where there is love, there is prudence to preserve the family. After all, the simplest thing that can happen is a break. But without working on yourself, you cannot build harmonious relationships. Some partners will be replaced by others, but the problem will remain. So you can run around all your life in search of an ideal relationship, but never find it. I wish all families love, health, prosperity and prosperity! Book a consultation by phone: 89524215433