From the author: Dear young parents, to create a happy family you need to start gaining professional knowledge in the development of the psyche of your children. I wish you success. There are a lot of articles on this topic in the literature and on the Internet. Children’s whims depend on physiological, psychological heredity (children are “angels”, children are “diamonds”) and on the mental development environment that the child’s relatives have built. If the child’s development strategy is incorrect, then whims manifest themselves depending on the innate characteristics of the child, including the nervous system, in different ways: whines, screams or squeals in anger, hits, bites, throws everything that comes to hand, falls on the asphalt in hysterics. Let's find out the reason for this whole phenomenon. For example, a baby gets hungry and begins to be capricious - this is a consequence, but the cause - the mother could not foresee this little thing at first glance. Another example. The mother is busy with household chores, and the child plays in the bed or playpen. She didn’t foresee it, but over time he got tired of the monotonous activity and loneliness, and the need for periodic reinforcement in love, security intensified, and began to scream. What do incompetent mothers do due to the fault of society (no one taught them: How to do it)? , even during the adaptation period. Most often, to keep the child quiet, they immediately pick him up. From frequent repetitions of this kind, the child develops an acquired (conditioned) reflex - “to make a wish come true, you have to scream.” This negative conditioned reflex is a wake-up call for parents that they are making their first mistake. A question arises. So how should it be? The child needs to be picked up more often, if you use a baby carrier, for children the baby sees what mommy is doing and, to a certain extent, becomes an accomplice in household chores, develops and becomes a socially significant member of the family. This must be remembered, because after two years the period of individualization begins. But the child screamed. We must try to distract him, calm him down, and then pick him up. Then the child will feel that they will take him in his arms when he is not screaming. This is a useful conditioned reflex. But there are often cases when it is not possible to calm the baby. Then you will have to follow the lead of your manipulator. But this should not be a system; it is necessary to anticipate his needs and desires .