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We further study the new atlas of Paul Ekman. Here, as they say, the further into the forest, the thicker the partisans. In his vision, the sphere of anger is a very interesting vinaigrette of emotional states. It all starts quite logically – with irritation. But the next emotion is frustration. How she relates specifically to anger remains a mystery to me personally. Then everything is clear - anger. It is clearly stronger than irritation. Everything is logical here. And then comes something called argumentation. I wasn’t even lazy and asked a translator friend for the meaning of this term. It turned out that it reflects the position of a person who clearly knows what he wants. Which, however, was to be expected. True, I never felt the connection with anger. Further more - bitterness comes. In the Russian language, bitterness is strongly associated with defeat and betrayal. That is, those emotional states that include not just disappointment, but also with the smack of missed opportunities and lost social connections. Maybe she was seen as a source of secondary aggression?!? Then the scale turns to vindictiveness. Which, although controversial, is close to the topic. Quite often I come across a very interesting fact. During trainings I give the following task: “link the insult to the emotional sphere.” And I give you two options to choose from – the sphere of aggression (antagonism) and the sphere of superiority (where contempt belongs). And the return is usually as follows. Most women classify insults as aggression. And most men - to contempt. IMHO, it is precisely this seemingly insignificant fact that may underlie the fact that women in family conflicts more often use insults as a means of achieving their goals. While a man, for the same purposes, more often uses pure aggression with raising his voice and its other physical manifestations. The same thing happens with such emotional states as revenge and hatred. Women send them to aggression, men to contempt. And everything in the described sphere ends quite logically - with rage. The classic affect of anger. I would be glad to know your opinion on this segment of the emotional map. You can subscribe to my articles and blog posts here Do you want to learn how to manage your neurosis on your own? Take an online psychocorrection course individually or in a group! You may find my following articles useful: