Author: Vitaly Pichugin Source: http://nlplife.ru/ Is your fear, and who should deal with it? You can fight it, you can come to an agreement. This is what you like. Becoming stronger than your fear and overcoming it is tempting, but sometimes it’s simply expensive in terms of energy, time, and mental strength. When you get tired of fighting with yourself, you need to come to an agreement. Most fears are controlled by the conscious mind. That is: 1. A person realizes the cause of fear. 2. Aware of the moment of occurrence. 3. Understands how fear manifests itself in the body. 4. Maybe I can formulate all this for myself. Under such circumstances, you can begin to negotiate with your fear. Fear appeared - good. Let him sit in the corner, quietly and calmly, while I do what I need to do. Then, when I’ve done everything, I’ll definitely be afraid, for the sake of decency. After all, it happens that a person does something important, which he was previously afraid of, and then wonders - how did I decide to do this, how did I succeed? After such reflections, fear appears that was not there at the moment of the action itself. For example, an acquaintance of mine had long wanted to jump with a parachute, although he was afraid of heights, but he bet with a girl that he would definitely jump. There was nowhere to retreat. When I landed, I felt real fear, by the way, at the same time with the joy of victory. I wondered to myself - how did you have the courage? Why not immediately come to an agreement with yourself, let the fear be there, but not interfere during the action. Literally imagine how you put your fear in a corner, it is no longer with you, you are free from it for the time when you act. Calm your fear. You will come back for him, but only after you complete the job. The wording is important here. Note that it is not fear that will return to you, but you who will come after it, so don’t let it get boring and leave you alone for a while. By the way, the question is, is it worth being afraid after the deed itself is done? What's the point of this? Fear often mobilizes. Adrenaline is released to give you the strength to take action. But when everything is done, then what is the point of being afraid. Out of habit? Therefore, you can always return for your abandoned fear, but is it necessary to experience it? Imagine that you have already done what you were afraid of. You come back to pick up your fear, left in the corner, and it is somehow modest, quiet, gray, in general - nothing. Why worry about him? Take it if you want without worry. Maybe he will refuse to return to you. Don't insist. Let go of your fear if you are no longer on the same path. He now has his own path, and you have your own life, without fear. This method is suitable for creative people with a good imagination. Try it, at the same time you will find out how creative and imaginative you are. Don't forget to read about "Cat's Fears""