Any person may have a desire to forget some period of his life. Someone strives to throw out negative memories from their memory (about the violence they experienced, about loss, about moments of humiliation and deprivation). “Forget like a bad dream.” Someone, on the contrary, prays for oblivion in relation to the happiest moments of life (how good we were then together) or wants to forget the very fact of the existence of a person who does not reciprocate. We should not ignore the fact that the psyche and consciousness are great matters that control a lot. And if a person’s pain and tension are too strong, the brain will automatically cope with this in any way convenient for it. For example, it will “give” some very unpleasant bodily symptom, which will no longer be “up to it,” or dissociative amnesia, or dissociative identity disorder (or some other serious diagnosis already at the level of psychiatry). There is simply no other, “healthy” way to forget information that was of great importance to you and greatly affected you emotionally. For example, you can easily forget how in the fourth grade on the first day of the autumn holidays you ate a sausage sandwich for breakfast, and then we went for a walk. It’s a completely different matter if on this very day, after this very breakfast, your parents gave you a wonderful puppy. He grew up with you and turned from a clumsy puppy into a large and beautiful Labrador. You have already managed to graduate from school, go to college, meet your first love, experience your first serious betrayal, find your first job, and all this time your faithful friend has always been by your side. And then he got sick, but until the very end you were by his side. And now, you are in so much pain that you just want to forget this smart and kind Labrador. It’s as if he never existed. But you will never forget him. Just like you won’t forget your first love (and all subsequent ones too), the day when you found out that your loved one was cheating on you, your friend who seriously offended you and the other string of events that make up our whole life. No also a machine that would erase memories. And not a single psychologist will help you resolve the request “I want to forget (insert the right word).” But, you can reformulate the request into a more workable one. “I want the memories of the event to no longer cause me pain.” This also needs to be dealt with. Unpleasant emotions are normal, important and necessary at first. We must grieve ours. If we grieve, it means it was important to us. But life does not stand still. We are changing, the world around us is changing. Some things cease to be important and significant, and some do not. Instead of pain and grief, gratitude appears. Gratitude for what it was. Awareness of the value of the influence this has on our lives. If the situation does not give rest for too long, it means that it is not over yet. Most likely, time will no longer help or cure. Need psychological help. To “win back” “stuck” emotions that do not allow new “brothers” to take their rightful place. Express resentment, anger, “let off steam.” Figure out what has not yet been expressed, received or given. And finally, do it. Not necessarily with a real object/subject or subject. It is possible with an imaginary image, in a safe space of counseling/psychotherapy. And then the situation will not be forgotten, but will simply occupy its shelf in a huge closet of memories, which make up not only our experience, but our entire personality as a whole. If you feel that you need changes in your life and support from a specialist, contact us! Together we will find your path to happiness and harmony!