There is not always a need for in-depth study of some queries. There are a number of everyday situations that you simply don’t like and would like to change. For example, conflicts, which no family can do without. And then these difficulties can be solved at the level of behavior. If the conflict develops according to the same scenario over and over again, it is worth changing something. And the only thing that you can change in a conflict situation is your manifestations in this conflict. If you want to have something you've never had, you'll have to do something you've never done. Something like this. I suggest you try the “I-message” technique. This technique was originally developed for communicating with children. But it has also proven itself to be the best for communication between adults. It is worth spending a little time and effort so that the technique becomes a habit and you will notice significant changes in your relationships with others. How will this technique help you? 1. Prevent or smooth out conflict; 2. Show empathy for others;3. Avoid the victim position in communication; 4. Better understand and express your own thoughts, feelings and emotions in an environmentally friendly way;5. Reduce internal tension;6. Replace aggressive behavior with confident and friendly behavior; 7. Establish close and sincere relationships with your partner. To master the “I-statements” technique, you need to remember and master 5 steps: 1. Fact. Describe specifically what happened. Without emotions, evaluations and feelings. (You're late).2. Feelings. Voice your feelings regarding this fact. (I'm annoyed).3. Explanation. Tell us why you are experiencing these feelings. (I'm annoyed because I waited for you outside for 30 minutes and was very cold).4. Wish. Offer options for developing the situation that would suit you. (I want you to warn me if you are late for more than 10 minutes. Then I can wait for you at the nearest coffee shop and not freeze).5. Intentions. If this is necessary in the situation, voice what and how you are going to do in connection with the fact that occurred. (I’m ready to wait for you for 20 minutes, if you’re more late, I go home/go for a walk alone/go for coffee). For practice, below are YOU messages. Convert them into I-messages. You can imagine situations. Why do you always interrupt me? You don’t listen to me! You behave simply disgusting! You always take my things without asking! Svetlana Sherstina, psychologist. Cost of consultation: 6000 rubles 50 min. Reception location: Novoslobodskaya, 18. To make an appointment, write to WhatsApp: 89261041045