From the author: Relationships between children and parents, as we know, are not always ideal; in this case, establishing relationships should not be left for later. Every person comes into this world thanks to his parents, who gave him life. But as often happens in this very life, it is with their parents that many begin to lose psychological contact and a common language. Everyone knows that the problem of fathers and sons has existed at all times. Contrary to the expectations of many, the psychology of modern man is not fundamentally different from the psychology of man in the recent past. Life, as you know, does not stand still, new people are born, but the problems remain the same, the relationship between parents and children remains relevant as before. Misunderstanding on the part of their own parents greatly prevents many from feeling truly happy. How often do we hear that misunderstanding between many children and parents is an abyss into which all personal aspirations to change something fall. As a psychologist, both parents and their children often come to me with problems of misunderstanding each other. Often, such work requires the person asking for help to work on themselves and the problems that arise, because in order to change something, you need to start taking action. Consulting helps you find the right way to establish and strengthen contacts with your loved ones, because in this case, a detailed analysis of the exciting situation takes place and an individual solution is selected. Only an individual approach helps to clarify many things and develop the necessary strategy, which, for example, cannot be obtained from general recommendations that are on the Internet and act as a general solution to all problems, which is fundamentally wrong. Continuing the conversation about this problem, I remember a case that was I had a few years ago. A 31-year-old young woman sought consultation; she lived separately from her mother. The woman grew up without a father and, after graduating from school in the region, went to study at the institute in Voronezh, where she received a room in a student dormitory. Marina, let’s call the heroine, was a good student, received a scholarship and still managed to earn extra money. Even as a teenager, Marina had difficulty communicating with her mother, who was trying to improve her personal life and constantly told her daughter that she was a burden to her. The situation was complicated by the fact that the girl, according to her, had a non-traditional sexual orientation since childhood, which was very carefully hidden from her mother, as a result of which they became even further apart. While studying at the institute, Marina rarely visited her mother, although in her heart she had a great desire to get closer to her. After college, she decided to stay and live in Voronezh. At the age of 30, Marina’s mother became seriously ill, and all her treatment had to take place in Voronezh. As a result, mother and daughter began to live together. Over the long period of their separate lives, according to Marina, they became practically strangers to each other. The daughter tried in every possible way to help her mother with treatment, accompanied her to hospitals, but her mother did not appreciate this care at all. The situation became more complicated after the mother found out about her daughter's sexual orientation. My meetings with Marina were not short-term, and for the success of therapy, I decided to involve her mother in the process. It was not easy to implement this, both because of her unwillingness to work and because of her health. The work process was not easy and required a lot of time and effort on the part of all participants. However, after 3 joint meetings, there was clear positive progress and the meetings were suspended due to the mother's treatment. Communication with Marina continued by telephone and via the Internet. After 2.5 years, Marina’s mother died due to illness. According to the daughter, it was the best time she spent with her mother, only overshadowed by her illness. They were able to find that common language that they did not have before, and the mother was able.