Mistresses are very naive and there are reasons for this... Almost every woman has problems with self-esteem, many are disliked by their parents, some have had husbands cheat on them or are in a dead marriage, they have a hunger for love, they crave warmth and affection. Thus, they are ready to go into a relationship like a whirlwind, it is very important for them that someone says words of love, makes them feel desired, one and only. Men understand this very well and use it well. Then they begin to tell the woman about the best sex, unearthly love, a special connection between them, they conduct active correspondence with her, pay a lot of attention to her and it seems to the woman that he is the one, the love of her life, with whom she will be happy. A man wins a mistress with beautiful words not because he is romantic or in love, and for very practical reasons - so that he has very good sex with a woman who wants him very much. To do this, he is ready to confess to her anything, that he loves only her, and they will definitely be together... we just have to wait. The mistress believes him. Then, something happens that sooner or later must happen - the wife finds out about her husband’s affair on the side. The man’s behavior changes dramatically, to the surprise of his mistress, he stops answering calls and messages, and if he does answer, then instead of words of love he talks all sorts of nonsense, or behaves rudely, and may even insult. Then he posts photos on social networks in an embrace with his wife, with a caption like: “family is the most important thing.” Of course, it is very painful for his mistress to see this, she feels betrayed and deceived. For a while he disappears, and then appears again with an offer to continue communication, and he disappeared for the sake of their relationship, because it was better for them. There is only one conclusion to be drawn from this situation, no matter how much you would like to believe a man who is married and feeds you breakfast, promising a future together, you should focus solely on his actions, not words. This is a simple and understandable conclusion, but nevertheless, many women do not follow it and continue a relationship that is unpromising for them for quite a long time, being in illusions. Read the continuation in the next article. Sincerely, your psychologist Daria Viktorovna Lyapkalo. If you want to analyze your individual case and find a solution, then sign up for a consultation Telegram, WhatsApp + 7 952 246 08 60 Sign up for a therapeutic group for people in codependent relationships (online).