Many women and children are taught to endure, obey and suffer, they are instilled with inferiority. In families there is a perverted concept of the head of the family. And there should not be dominance and subordination in families. Broken, traumatized by pressure, people learn to be happy again. What does it mean? This is to understand yourself, your feelings, your desires and needs, to allow yourself to live, regardless of what was instilled in you. Have your own personal space, your own things, values, tastes, desires. Live your life. Understand what you want and how to implement it. Live by your own rules, have your own relationships and don’t let anyone interfere with them. Often the treatment of elders, kinship and family relationships suppress the individual. Tragedy happens when they choose for a person who to be in life, where to study, with whom to live, what to eat, what to wear, they instill an obligation to their parents and do not allow them to separate, they build in limiting suggestions and schizophrenogenic patterns. It’s even worse when, having picked up violence and negativity in the family, a person plays it out in adulthood, falling from one trash to another. The family was dysfunctional and destructive, no one taught the norms and the right choice, many were born as servants and were not shown love and value, which protect them from dangers, inappropriate social circles and abuse. Such people have a destructive program of not living in dignity and self-destruction. It is very difficult to overcome it and change your thinking from negativity to the desire to live and your behavior. Suggestions have been made for years and the brain unconsciously reproduces them. Weaning yourself off suffering, removing toxins from your surroundings, taking small steps to get out of the emotional hole, the meaninglessness of life, chaos and discomfort, gaining new support in life and knowledge is what you need to do to become happy. This is work, and sometimes very hard work, work on oneself, will, training, character development. Happiness is being yourself, living your life, enjoying your successes, making your choices, your purchases, having your own boundaries, doing as you want, getting what you need, communicating with those you like. The result is worth it.