I often come across questions on psychological forums regarding the interesting psychological model “inner child”, “parent” and “adult”, namely people’s misunderstanding of how this model works. To work in this model, it is important to understand what it is and in this trilogy we will try to understand it). Let's start with the fact that I often come across the perception of the inner child as a very positive, creative and joyful part. Which of course may be half true, but only half. When we talk about the inner child, it is also important not to forget about the other half. First of all, the inner child personifies our emotional and sensory world, and this is a huge variety of different kinds of experiences, emotions, feelings and affects that fill the child’s world. This world is filled not only with various kinds of positive and creative charges of energy, but also with destructive affects depending on life situations and events. Therefore, when we come into contact with our inner child, we begin to interact with our emotional world, with our sphere of primary feelings and experiences and affects of different polarities, both positive and negative, and this is important to keep in mind. Next, we come to the key point of the effectiveness and effect of interacting with your inner child. The inner child is called a child for a reason; a child reflects a dominant state of immaturity and hidden potential that needs care and development. And here is another key fork where we can take a wrong turn, this is the understanding of what care is. We often interpret care one-sidedly, from the series “either indulge, pamper, and do everything for the child, or order and force.” Here it is important to understand that it is in our emotional sphere that the element of potential lies; it is the inner child that contains the potential for development, just as a seed contains information about the future tree. Therefore, first of all, care is to help the child move towards independence, promoting the development of internal potential and relying on to the level of development at which he is currently located. What does it mean? This means that we can understand any of our abilities, talents, emotions, feelings and experiences as manifestations of our inner child who want to be harmoniously included in our life and in our personality, i.e. mature. In other words, if there is an immature part within us, then it needs to be helped to realize itself and manifest itself in our inner and outer life. Like a child who can try something for the first time in his life and learn how to do it. The child begins to become interested and move towards what interests him, which activates his initially positive emotions and authentic inclinations. And here we can either help along this path or hinder it. Remember yourself or your children how this happens;) Here the parental figure comes to the fore - it is like a filter of child behavior, as a measure of what is useful for the child and what is not. Something similar happens inside us, the child part is like a beacon for our movement and development. Movements towards those feelings, experiences, values ​​that are authentic for us and resonate internally. With the help of the parental inner figure, we create the conditions for their development. This is where the bulk of questions arise, how to do this? In the parental part and in the process of its interaction with our inner child, there are also many important things for understanding ourselves... we will talk about this in our next article. Online psychological consultations - Romadanov Nikolai Mikhailovich. +79021819257 viber whatsapp telegramm