Success, joy and achievement - all of the above cause delight and pleasure. The person is at the peak of drive and experiences very pleasant sensations. They are easy to deal with and are common to share. Everything here is simple and clear. But failures, disappearances and lack of success - on the contrary, seem to wash a person with a heavy wave of sadness, bitterness, guilt, shame and anxiety. It may happen that one trouble stubbornly follows another. Thoughts appear that a person has no value. The voice of the inner critic comments on every step, without letting up for a minute. As a result, people become isolated. They do not want to share their thoughts, they are afraid of being ridiculed and rejected. In some cases, people still turn to friends for help. This is actually much better than silently constantly playing rumination gum in your head. But there are many ifs... Not everyone has close people. Those whom you can trust unconditionally and receive help, and not hear criticism in return. Quite often, friends begin to dive into problems, attributing their own personal feelings and experiences. Unconsciously they shift the focus to their lived experience, thus they can further aggravate and deepen the problem. If a person does not agree with a friend’s opinion, resentment and distancing may appear. How do they usually cope with difficult experiences? Quite often, people alone are left face to face with a difficult situation. They resort to one of the following methods: They drive away sad thoughts. They try not to notice them and avoid them. This is only possible for a while, because it is very difficult to try not to think “About a gray elephant.” As soon as we drive away thoughts about him, they begin to come with double speed. Heavy emotions are knocked down by alcohol, drugs, overeating. In the age of computer technology, people often escape from reality, into virtual computer worlds. They “bury themselves” in work. They deplete all their strength and energy resources. All of the above methods only temporarily remove the symptoms of difficult experiences and plunge them even deeper into problems. Situations are not resolved, but only postponed for a while. Social loneliness progresses, alcoholism, gambling and drug addiction can develop. If a person falls into a mental trap, turning to a psychologist is the best solution. Because: A psychologist gives the necessary acceptance and attention. There is no condemnation, advice or moralizing in them. The specialist guarantees support, confidentiality and security. It is very convenient to work with a psychologist online. In most cases, a physical meeting is not possible in reality. Equal safety of the client and the psychologist is maintained. The psychologist introduces interaction with emotions, without playing hide and seek. Gradually, a person begins to communicate with his anger, fear, guilt, sadness, in a safe space. He becomes an explorer of his consciousness and understands how to cope with his difficult experiences. In the process of working with a specialist, an awareness of personal values ​​comes, and a plan for achieving them appears. A person doesn’t just dream, he begins to take actions that lead him to his desired goals. If you are in a difficult situation, you can contact me. I'm waiting for you in my safe space.