Today I want to touch on the topic of self-acceptance, because I think this topic is relevant for many. Perhaps you, like me, have come across, more than once, similar recommendations: “you need to accept yourself” or “learn to love and accept yourself.” When I come across such advice, I have a lot of questions: is there any clear, some kind of instruction on exactly how and in what way you need to accept yourself? Is it possible to learn this at all, and if so, where and from whom? I decided to understand these issues for myself and now I will share the results with you!😊 First of all, I was interested in the question: how can you come to terms with your, so to speak, “bad” character qualities. For example, with such a trait as coldness. I suggest that you first understand the following concepts: character traits and coldness. Since I work in the Pezeshkian method of Positive Psychotherapy, I will rely on this method during the explanations. By the way, the name “positive” comes from the word positum - actual, given; that is, positive psychotherapy implies a holistic view of a person’s personality and situations as a whole. This metaphor comes to mind: it is important to be able to accept a rose along with its thorns. 🌹 And so, the set of character traits or character qualities, or actual abilities (as they are called in positive psychotherapy) is the same for all people, but the degree of development is different for everyone. This is due to factors such as: body, era, environment. That is, having a certain body (well, for example, scientists have proven that beautiful people are forgiven more and encouraged more often), living in certain social conditions and at one time or another, a person naturally develops exactly that set of actual abilities (qualities) character), which help him live and develop precisely in those current living conditions. Thus, I want to say that the current abilities that you developed were relevant at that time in your life. They (current abilities or character traits) were relevant for you, they suited you best at that time! And I realized, and I think you too, that there are no “bad” current abilities. But how is it that over time we begin to consider some of them “bad”? The fact is that since the conditions of our life have changed, time, social environment and those current abilities (character qualities) that helped us before, today no longer have the same relevance, and sometimes even begin to hinder us. And that’s when they get the label “bad.” And now I propose to return to the actual ability of coldness (here it is understood as closedness). 📋✏️And in order for the article to have a greater therapeutic effect, first of all, for you, I suggest you arm yourself with paper and pen, also remember that character trait that no longer helps you in life, and write it down. 📋✏️ So - coldness, this character trait has not only disadvantages, as it might seem at first glance, it has a lot of advantages (which, by the way, I used for a long time), namely: coldness gave me a sober and impartial look at many things and this was also possible - not to open up completely, allowed me to avoid relationships “from heart to heart”, and this was also useful to me and I am very grateful to her for this!!! (Please write what you can be grateful for about your character trait?) Now a lot has changed in my life and there is no longer any need to not open up completely. On the contrary, the need arose precisely for relationships “from heart to heart” (these are relationships with my husband and girlfriends). Naturally, coldness is not a suitable tool for this purpose, but it is quite necessary in those moments when you need to remain with a cool mind, for example, at work!😊 Therefore, I will use it as an air conditioner - I need a chill - I turned it on, I don’t need it (at home with my husband ) - turned it off! I suggest!!!!😘💖🌷🌷🌷