And why is it normal not to rejoice? It’s only the beginning of December, and already there are Christmas trees, garlands, gifts all around... Traditionally, the New Year is considered the main holiday of the year, it is endowed with a sacred meaning and even adults believe in its special power. In magazines and on TV they dictate the rules: how to celebrate this day, that it must be spent with your family, dressed in a special way. For girls, the minimum program is evening makeup, hairstyle, manicure... But why do many people feel so sad on New Year's Eve? Society dictates - have fun! And if we don’t feel much joy, then comparison with others further intensifies the sadness, adding guilt to this cocktail: “I’m somehow wrong, since I don’t feel positive emotions.” Comparing emotions with the past. As children, we believed in miracles and Santa Claus, everyone remembers matinees, gifts and an unforgettable atmosphere... but if we are over 12 years old, then it is unlikely that emotions will be as strong. And now we are a little over a year old, and I remember that childhood experience, and again the comparison is not in favor of the present. And this is absolutely normal. High expectations. It seems to us that after the chimes, life will change dramatically, suddenly, like in a fairy tale... But unresolved problems do not disappear with a wave of the hand, a new life will not start from scratch. Results of the year. At the end, it is customary to sum up the results of the year, and if you focus only on failures, or your plans were grandiose, then there is a chance of disappointment. Loneliness or family ties. New Year's Eve is considered to be a family holiday. But what to do if there are no loved ones nearby, or you don’t want to see them? What to do about it? In December, a natural decrease in activity and tone is possible, caused by the shortest daylight hours. If you are very dependent on the time of year, accept your peculiarities and point 2 will also be for you. Take care of yourself! In the New Year's rush, we want to keep up with gifts and promotions, but we so often forget about ourselves. Try giving yourself something special. Listen to your rhythm. If you don't like noisy parties, stay home, put on your favorite pajamas and turn on your favorite movie. Remember that there is no “perfect” scenario 4. Be realistic in your expectations. The numbers on the calendar are just numbers. If you are not satisfied with the results of the year, this is the best time to ask - am I doing what I like? What do I spend my time on? This applies to both work and relationships5. Loneliness is not a death sentence. Even if it happens that you are alone that day, this does not make you worse. In fact, now more and more people prefer to be alone on this day. In recent years, many people have admitted that they spent December 31st alone, and they advise writing more about it. Remember that a beautiful picture of an “ideal family” does not always indicate the true happiness of people.6. Less alcohol, more movement. There are 10 days off ahead – a good time for activity. Walking, skiing, skating will make you happier than liters of alcohol and fatty foods. 7. Don't do anything through force. If you don’t want to communicate with relatives, there’s no need. Do what makes you feel more comfortable first and foremost.8. Share the joy with those who are worse off. Charity and volunteering can make us happy and give a holiday to those who really need it.9. Create your own traditions. If you're tired of Olivier with champagne, come up with your own! Games, a new dish, going out of town, buying something dear to your heart, planning goals for the year... it’s all up to you.