When a baby moves to a new stage of his development, not only his thinking changes, but also the social environment in which he grows and develops. Parents expect new achievements, knowledge and skills from the child, and become more demanding regarding the child’s independence, behavior, compliance with rules and restrictions. The adaptation period is the transition between stages of development, and how it proceeds as a whole determines the child’s future attitude towards kindergarten, school and their self-identification in this area. Read more about adaptation. At the stage of adaptation, it is the family that becomes a support for a small individual or, conversely, a negative factor that interferes with establishing relationships in a new team, adapting to a new regime and living conditions. How parents interfere with a child’s adaptation. There are three problems in the relationship between parents and children that interfere with the child’s normal adaptation at school and in kindergarten: • dual feelings - on the one hand, the mother builds a deep emotional connection with the child, which makes her emotionally worry about him and love him with all her heart. On the other hand, the arrival of a child in a team creates a need for parents to compare him with other children and evaluate his achievements; • mother’s authoritarianism - expressed in increased control and setting higher standards, which leads to increased infantilism and irresponsibility of a school-age child. In relation to children who have begun to attend kindergarten, mothers often use the phrase “He’s still too young, so he can’t cope” and thereby build an image of a loser in their heads, and then project it onto their son or daughter; • mother’s demands are formed in the child’s head some ideal image of oneself. When he realizes that his successes and behavior at school or in kindergarten are far from parental expectations, an internal conflict occurs. This provokes neuroses and anxiety. As a consequence of problems in the social environment, the child’s adaptation to new conditions takes longer, is more difficult, with far-reaching negative consequences. The baby becomes disobedient, nervous, and fearful. A setback in development may occur and then nocturnal enuresis and shuddering may appear. A first-grader often develops fear of school, reluctance to study, lack of initiative, lack of will, low self-esteem, and uncertainty. What should parents do? The adaptation period is inevitably associated with stress. So that a new place, people, learning processes do not cause negative associations and fear in the child, parents must first of all organize a calm, warm, comfortable psychological atmosphere at home and analyze their behavior. Family support (but not excessive guardianship) creates the resource state necessary for the child to overcoming stress and difficulties of the adaptation period. It is important at this time to strictly adhere to the chosen parenting strategy, avoiding contradictions, duality, conflicts, idealization or, conversely, belittling the merits and successes of the baby. Love and take care of your children!