This is a terrible word: Treason. For some, this event becomes a turning point, an event that split the world into Before and After. Someone copes, finds the strength to survive it and move on. Someone even decides to forgive their partner and builds a new relationship with him. But there are those for whom the betrayal of a loved one becomes a real psychological trauma. It is difficult for a person to build new relationships. He doesn't trust others. He develops or worsens self-esteem problems. It seems that everything is in the past, but he continues to relive these events again and again in his head, making himself even more painful. How to get through this, how to finally start breathing freely and just live, leaving this pain in the past? Here are some relevant tips for such situations. 1) Recognize that it happened, it’s a fact. It’s just part of the past that can be “put away in a distant drawer” and not carried with you. The problem is that many continue to conduct mental dialogues with themselves and think about what would have happened if this had not happened. 2) Find the safest and most gentle way out for your emotions You should not make a scandal and take it out on your partner or loved ones, this will cause you even more irritation. It is better to talk to a close friend or psychologist. You will throw out the negativity in movement, in creativity.3) If possible, do not make categorical decisions right away. If this is clearly not required by circumstances, then it is better to simply move away from your partner. It takes time and you need an even emotional state to make sound decisions.4) Assess the share of guilt of each of them partners It happens that your partner is 90% to blame, and sometimes your share is not small. Admit honestly to yourself how things stand in this matter. At least in order not to repeat your mistakes again. 5) Assess how your partner is behaving now. asks for forgiveness, tries to get you back, or doesn’t he care? In any case, his reaction, his behavior is very important. These are significant arguments for making your subsequent decisions. 6) Gain strength and simply allow yourself more. Especially now you need to love and pamper yourself. Allow yourself everything you wanted in different areas of your life. You need to recharge, pump up your resources and just start enjoying surrounding phenomena, people and things. 7) Make a decision, if this decision is required And, if everything has been decided long ago, then simply continue to live in a resourceful state 8) Fill your life with varied and pleasant events Let the bright, but extremely negative event Treason, fade against the backdrop of new ones impressions. This is a very unpleasant and painful event, but it is already in the past. Allow yourself to live without looking back at this past.Vera Bokareva, psychologist, sexologist, doctor of science. If you need my advice, please contactContacts: WhatsApp / Viber / Telegram: +7-963-231-37-12 verabo.ru