"Cooks are offended. Queens draw conclusions." (From what we heard) We are all imperfect. But our life partners, that is, husbands, are especially imperfect) And this imperfection of theirs is difficult, and sometimes impossible, to accept. But at the same time, the person loves you, cares (to the best of his abilities and skills) and wants to spend his life next to you. What to do? Tolerate his shortcomings and urgently get a divorce and look for someone else? It’s up to you to decide) I just want to show that there is a third option for responding to a partner’s imperfection. This is not “patience” when on the outside “I endure”, but on the inside “God, for what?!” This is not running away when his actions hurt and in order not to feel pain, it is necessary to stop sensory contact with reality. This is complete and complete... growing up. Yes, it sounds somehow unusual, so I’ll explain. What actually happens when we are painfully wounded by a careless word from a partner, by his temporary (or permanent) inattention to our needs, by his periodic rudeness when talking to us? A “moving” occurs “from the position of an adult, self-sufficient, self-valued woman to the position of a wounded, offended, frightened little girl. And every time this “transition” takes place, the woman will cease to be her real self, lose contact with internal resources and become unaccepting. Her psyche “hardens” and she ceases to be in contact not only with herself, but, in fact, with the whole world. This position is always flawed and makes a woman vulnerable to everything. Even a sidelong glance, not to mention a careless word, can hurt painfully and throw you out of balance for a long time. Real acceptance is out of the question. And, as a result, patience occurs only on the external plane. This kind of withdrawal from ourselves occurs when we allow circumstances to move us from an adult state to an “immature” childish one. And if you succumb to weakness and leave the relationship, then history will repeat itself, but already paired with another person. So what to do? Grow up!) Grow up, grow up and grow up again. Olga Fedoseeva, I help women story relationships from the position of an adult, self-sufficient woman. In March there is one place in the medium-term program “Me and a man. To be happy” 🔥 SIGN UP for a consultation by phone: 8 921 436 87 03 or HERE You can read other useful articles by the author hereOnline courses “How to put an end to a relationship and become free”, “How to become valuable and necessary for him”, “The magic of female sexuality” WITH A DISCOUNT up to 30%