Girls should not be praised for what they have done. You are contributing to its degradation. If a girl is praised for what she has done: very tasty, very beautiful, very clean - eventually an understanding is formed that recognition will come to me only for my merits. Recognition will come to me only for what I have done. This is a principle that destroys a woman. A healthy state of affairs - I am worthy of love because I exist, because I am smart, because I am a hostess, because I am a helper, because I am a princess, because I am a fairy in the kitchen. Then a woman has a healthy psyche, because they approve of her, her nature. Her own state and the state that she brings to the world around her. That is, in order for me to receive love, I just need to remain myself. This is the principle of raising a girl. If you start praising her for her merits, then she immediately begins to think: I have nothing to praise myself for, I can only earn love, if there are merits, there will be love. Boys - it’s completely the opposite. Mothers love to say: you are so lovely, so smart, so well done. Everything seems to be fine. But in fact, this admiration only contributes to the degradation of a man, because he imagines that he is good in himself. But a man feels good only when he achieves something, achieves some result that is significant for himself. Therefore, in order to encourage a boy to improve and feel happy in the end, he needs to be told about his merits: it’s very beautifully done, very cool, very skillful. A boy needs all these kind words to a lesser extent, naturally, because his nature is to develop himself. He needs praise for reaching some intermediate peak. Instead of saying: honey, honey, for older boys it is very important that you show all the guests his plane made of Lego. This is more important than all these “suns, sweeties, bunnies.” “Look what he did, guess who did it. That’s right, Alyoshka did it, this is my son!” - this is much greater praise, a greater incentive for the boy. And the girl It won’t get any better if the whole neighborhood is treated to her soup. She will simply understand that she has to eat herself for the rest of her life and feed the area with soup. She will never deserve love again until she feeds everyone with soup. *Or whatever else is needed from her for the entire region...So give the girl the understanding that she is perfect and beautiful in herself, that she does not need to deserve love and recognition, that you love her and admire her simply because she is...