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It would seem that what is difficult here: to refuse an offer, request or demand coming from other people, that is, to say “no” if for some reason there is no opportunity or desire to do this? However, many people are faced with situations when it is difficult for them to refuse others. Why? As a rule, on the surface lies a feeling of guilt or fear of offending by refusal. And if you dig deeper, you can find: low self-esteem; fear of being disapproved by others; not pleasing others; the desire to be good for everyone; fear of rejection and abandonment. All this provokes you to agree to almost any uncomfortable request, even to the detriment of yourself. Which can lead to excessive expenditure of your own resources due to the lack of ability to protect yourself and defend your boundaries. How can you learn to say “no”?✔ First of all, it is important to remember yourself and your interests: no one is obliged to agree to all requests and offers , which come to him. If someone says “no” to someone, this does not mean that he is selfish or impolite. This means that he respects his needs and boundaries.✔ Honesty and openness are highly valued when communicating with others. When refusing something, everyone can explain their reasons for this, but they are not obligated to do so. It is enough that these reasons are valid and important to the person who refused.✔ There are situations when an apology is necessary. But in many cases, there is no need to apologize for your reluctance to do something. It is important to learn to accept your decision as a given, without making excuses or justifying it to others. There is no need to feel guilty for saying no. Your own boundaries are very important and those around you must learn to respect them.✔ The skill of refusal, like any other, must be trained. Here you can start small, for example, try to say “no” in simple, everyday situations, and then gradually move on to more complex and responsible ones. Thus, the ability to refuse and say “no” helps to protect your boundaries and conserve resources. There is no need to be afraid to do this, because it is normal and, moreover, important for maintaining mental and physical well-being. My telegram channel https://t.me/natalialebedevapsy Book a consultation: WhatsApp, telegram, messages on the website